Archive for April, 2007

Transgendered Children on ABC News

Monday, April 30th, 2007



I’m honestly tired of the ABC News soft cuddly news reports on kids in normal families that have twists in them.

Four year old paprika is just like any other child, but he’s gay. Tawnya is just like her friends, her black friends, but she’s white. Seven year old David was raised Christian despite being a Centaur.

In this case, 6-year-old “Jazz” is a boy who really wants to be a girl.

There’s underlying nastiness to these sorts of stories that makes me queasy. Its as if I accidentally walked in on a Freak Show where the Freak on display slightly resembles me. Its so much sympathy it almost looks like sarcasm.

Did I miss the joke here? Does this sort of story make all of the so-called “normal” people feel more secure with their lives?

I vaguely remember being 6-years-old myself, and there was a laundry list of things I hated about myself that I eventually got over.

1) I wanted a white person’s hair. Ok? Not blonde, but straight, soft, and manageable. I wanted the sort of hair you could run your hands through and still look great. Instead I had funky wavy black hair, slightly coarse, and chaotic in the mornings. If there were hormone injections for that then I’d be right there.

2) I didn’t want buck teeth. I was opposed to the whole idea of buck teeth.

3) I wanted to be Link from the Legend of Zelda, and not a little boy in some tiny apartment living with 6 family members. Yes, I was poor!

I can go on but you get the picture.

Listen, little Jazz is adorable, and I’m all for allowing my child the thrill of exploration–My mom let me put on high heels and do the can-can for her once (this happened last week…no just kidding, I was 5)–but at six years of age you can’t just start speculating about operations and important life decisions like removing your penis.

No five year old should become the poster-child for anything. Five year old Catholics become grown-up Atheists, five year old boys who touch other boys inappropriately grow up to be straight, and five year old cross-dressers with gender identities MAY just grow up to be homophobic truckers.

Exploring your options when you’re young is a wasted adventure if you cannot understand the profundity and longevity certain decisions can have on your life, and 6-year-old toddlers simply do NOT have this understanding yet.

Let’s talk when we hit puberty Jazz.

Domestic Partnership Recognized, but still 400 laws are out of reach?

Friday, April 13th, 2007

Ya, I’ve been following the whole marriage equality issue… at least in Washington State (trying to find a bastion on the West Coast). And yes, it something we might be thinking about.

So ya, I don’t know if it’s pretty words or not, but there are arguments that allowing this quasi-state of a recognized relationship is just clouding the real issue of whether or not gays should be allowed to be married. It’s mostly the right-winged people who are saying this, probably because making such a huge step would be shot down easily. To me, baby steps. I don’t think that it is a slippery-slope way of doing things… It’s more like saving money, penny-by-penny, where we all probably can’t save a thousand dollars at once today, but we can do it if we take baby steps over time - it leads to a positive, thought-out conclusion. Well, I’d like to hear what y’all think… because I still think this is about money… Take a look: Gay rights bill for couples passed; Governor plans to sign domestic partnership law

Update: thanks for the comment. Ya, I was wrong. Well, I should be more precise. My ‘bastion’ would be to actually allow gay marriages to happen. Domestic partnerships, though a step, still leaves out many marital deductions. I want a West Coast’s Massachusetts. Ooooo, let’s take bets on which of the Pacific Ocean touching states would allow gay marriage first. Hawaii, anyone?

Update again: K, Mr. Editor-in-Chief. Your all or none approach won’t get us there. I’m all about the rights, and more so about the money. So, I agree with you that this domestic partnership thing is not enough due to some 400 laws are still out of reach - and I’m just saying that most of those rights have to do with money issues, i.e. not being able to deduct for a spouse, or not being able to take an exemption upon death, or something. We need to start asserting our rights to the same marital ‘money’ rights.

I kind of believe Washington will beat out the other two West Coast states in allowing gay marriage… why? Being a native skews me a bit. West Coast sucks, hunh? Where did you meet your Aussie guy? Wasn’t your fling in LA? Give me a break, the surfer dudes are totally hotter than your pasty pale suit-and-tie lackies. Oh wait, put a surfer dude in a tie.. heh heh, hot… like opening a well packaged present. (Am I blogging correctly?)

Coming Out…

Friday, April 13th, 2007

Okay, so this example is a little beyond our age-range… But it still goes to show that it’s hella tough. This short article of this 33 yr old goes pretty deep for someone being in Missouri (of all places), coaching lacrosse (which, to me, seems like an upperclass-type game, unlike soccer, but I’m pretty ignorant when it comes to sports… *hunh* hot guys in light harnesses armor… which sport is that?) Take a look: University coach comes out of closet April 7, 2007

Wake me up when something exciting happens

Thursday, April 5th, 2007


“Out” Magazine (notice the quotes) just came out with their “50 Most Powerful Gay Men and Women in America” issue. Yawn. Here’s the list:

  1. David Geffen
  2. Anderson Cooper
  3. Ellen DeGeneres
  4. Tim Gill
  5. Barney Frank
  6. Rosie O’Donnell
  7. The New York Times Gay Mafia: Richard Berke, Ben Brantley, Frank Bruni, Stuart Elliott, Adam Nagourney, Stefano Tonchi, and Eric Wilson
  8. Marc Jacobs
  9. Andrew Tobias
  10. Brian Graden
  11. Jann Wenner
  12. Andrew Sullivan
  13. Suze Orman
  14. Joe Solmonese
  15. Fred Hochberg
  16. Christine Quinn
  17. Perez Hilton
  18. Scott Rudin
  19. John Aravosis
  20. Sheila Kuehl
  21. James B. Stewart
  22. Nick Denton
  23. Tom Ford
  24. Nate Berkus
  25. Adam Moss
  1. Jim Nelson
  2. Lorri L. Jean
  3. Adam Rose
  4. Annie Leibovitz
  5. Simon Halls and Stephen Huvane
  6. Bryan Lourd
  7. Bryan Singer
  8. Jonathan Burnham
  9. Brian Swardstrom
  10. Robert Greenblatt
  11. Chi Chi LaRue
  12. Dan Mathews
  13. Neil Meron and Craig Zadan
  14. Ingrid Sischy
  15. Marc Cherry
  16. Carolyn Strauss
  17. Irshad Manji
  18. Jodie Foster
  19. Christine Vachon
  20. André Leon Talley
  21. Hilary Rosen
  22. Matthew Marks
  23. Benny Medina
  24. Mitchell Gold
  25. David Kuhn

Bloggers. Photographers. Journalists. Closeted actors and newscasters.

Reeeeeeally?! Is this the best you can do? How booooooooring. You’ll also note that “Out” chose two closeted celebs for their cover—Jodie Foster and Andersoon Cooper. Bold. What a statement.

Excuse us while the Qr Staff go back to sleep. We’ll be up at 11am to make a real statement, to make a real difference, to continue convincing the world that we’re more than a list of 50 nobodies.


p.s. what did you give up for Lent? Besides vaginas?